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I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”
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maya47000:

Zermatt, Switzerland

maya47000:

Zermatt, Switzerland

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xainagal:

if someone says they dont want to be touched

  • dont touch them
  • dont fucking touch them
  • actually dont touch them
  • dont continue to fucking touch them after they make it clear they are uncomfortable
  • THIS ISNT FUCKING HARD DONT FUCKING TOUCH THEM

also dont continue touching them bc you think their reaction is cute

Especially the last point

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handmade constellation quilt

handmade constellation quilt

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choodraws:

snufkin and moomintroll in the valley

choodraws:

snufkin and moomintroll in the valley

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one summer’s day / joe hisaishi

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ggrundtner:

This photo was taken for my Digital Photography class. I was in the sunken garden room at the Conservatory in Como Park. I took nine consecutive photos and used the photo stitching feature in PhotoShop to bring them together. This is how I achieved the depth in the photo.
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ggrundtner:

This photo was taken for my Digital Photography class. I was in the sunken garden room at the Conservatory in Como Park. I took nine consecutive photos and used the photo stitching feature in PhotoShop to bring them together. This is how I achieved the depth in the photo.

This was delivered via my secret email account.

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